Individuals in monogamous relationships must fulfill each other’s needs consistently. Personal mood should not dictate sexual intimacy. This is the core principle of monogamy, according to gynaecologist and obstetrician Dr. Padi Ayertey.
Dr. Ayertey explained that choosing monogamy means partners agree to satisfy each other’s needs completely. This commitment is a clear and deliberate choice. Mood should not factor into this arrangement. He spoke on Joy FM’s Home Affairs program. The discussion focused on mental health care.
This responsibility is mutual between partners. It applies equally to both individuals. Monogamy is built on shared duty, not on selective engagement. Partners cannot refuse based on their current feelings. Dr. Ayertey stated that this applies to both men and women in the relationship.
Misunderstandings of this principle can cause issues. These problems can extend beyond intimacy. They can affect other shared duties. Dr. Ayertey stressed the importance of understanding monogamous commitments clearly. When partners let personal moods guide their actions, it impacts wider duties. These include provision, support, and accountability within the relationship.
Monogamy is grounded in mutual provision. Both partners are expected to consistently support each other’s needs. Dr. Ayertey used an analogy. He asked if one’s pocket has a mood when provisions are needed. This highlights that some obligations are absolute. They are not subject to personal feelings.
Those who prefer flexibility based on personal feelings can choose other relationship structures. Non-monogamous arrangements offer less rigid expectations. In such cases, a partner might say, 'I am not in the mood today.' This is acceptable outside of a monogamous commitment.
Dr. Ayertey believes monogamous relationships are holistic commitments. They go beyond just intimacy. They include everyday support. These relationships require clarity. They demand discipline. Shared accountability is essential from both partners. The date of this discussion was June 8, 2026.